Whenever we are wishing for something to be different from what it is, we are energetically holding it in our lives.
In our culture the word surrender is loaded with negative connotations, such as giving up, wimping out, being weak, unable to cut it. However, surrender in the context that we are using it is a deep feeling of letting go of struggle and conflict: it is about accepting what is in the moment, not fighting it but accepting the reality even as we seek to see what can be done to change or move beyond it.
Surrender helps to bring your heart into coherence through the inner peace and calm it generates. To truly surrender we need to let go of wanting, yearning, wishing, needing and directing. When we are in these states, our focus is on what we feel we don’t have. We are in a vibration of lack or scarcity. Sometimes we become stuck and even paralyzed by these feelings.
Since our energy reflects our inner state, it is stuck, paralyzed, not moving, so it holds us in place rather than moving freely so it can be channeled in a stronger, more positive direction.
When our focus is on what is missing from our lives, we create more of what we feel we don’t have. We create more of what is missing. Developing an attitude of acceptance — acceptance of the way things ARE– enables you to move beyond patterns of resistance and bring peace to your heart.
Acceptance does not mean that something or someone is right or wrong. Acceptance is simply acknowledging things just the way they are now. It’s just allowing them to be, without judgment. Judgments tear at our energy and do us much more harm than the person, place or thing that we are judging.