Heart Energy, Relationships and Distortions in the Field
One common manifestation of unbalanced heart chakra energies is codependency in relationships. A brief refresher: Codependency describes a relationship between people where boundaries are blurred and there is an expectation that the other will “make them whole” or provide what was “lost” at an earlier stage of life or what is missing now in life or in oneself. It is my belief that in our western culture we have been conditioned to have these kinds of expectations. Just listen to our music! 🙂 Regardless of how this pattern of relationship came about it is up to each of us to look to ourselves and what we need to heal in order to create something more nourishing and sustainable. And herein lies the problem!
Instead of looking within at a wounded part of oneself and healing it, we search externally for the answer to our pain, needs and healing. This circumvents development of a whole, healthy sense of self and a real ability to function freely in the world. The reasons for codependency vary, are typically unconscious, and generally are rooted in deep beliefs and family legacies. Until recently, codependency was the typical relationship pattern in our western world.
Energy and Co-dependence
Problem beliefs and family legacies that help to create codependent patterns are registered mostly in the lower three chakras . Those chakras are ones associated with what we know as ego. This also appears to be the part of the energy system where we encode and store shadow material. Imbalances in these lower chakras influence the upward flow of energy to the heart chakra and affect its healthy functioning.
As we work to clear, ground, and balance our personal energy we can transcend the ego’s vibrations. When we clear and balance our lower energy centers we are better able to settle into the heart chakra and cultivate its higher qualities: deep inner peace, presence, and the capacity for unconditional love. In the heart we can surrender to the vast and expansive inner silence. Here judgment is absent and deep compassion, empathy; care, kindness, and forgiveness for self and others become realities.
A loving heart is not something that we cognitively decide to have.
A truly loving heart is a state of being that develops through awareness, consciousness, focused learning, honest self-evaluation, and commitment.